PEOPLE EVENTUALLY BECOME THEIR BEHAVIORS


"Do I separate the behavior from the person? Yes. I do. Do I necessarily let that person stick around in my life? No, I don’t. I can forgive the person and separate the action and still not choose to have that behaviour repeated around me time and again. People are not their behaviours AND you don’t necessarily need to have the behaviour following you around.
I believe in boundaries. I believe in telling people what behaviours I accept and which ones I don’t. I’m very clear on that. And when they demonstrate an action that doesn’t work for me repeatedly and I’ve communicated my dissatisfaction repeatedly, I cut them loose." 

personal note: and doing this ---(can be) heartbreaking....TO BE CONTINUED VIA MY VIEW